Thursday, February 25, 2021

Stigmas faced by Children and Adults suffering from Mental Health Issues

Mental Health disorders are on the rise in both children and adults. It is very important to recognize the symptoms and provide necessary treatment to them. As discussed in my previous article , talking about Mental Health is still a stigma in the Indian Society. 

The stigmas faced by children are different from that faced by adults. The Stigmas can prevent children and families from talking about, exploring and addressing any feelings they have, which is an important part of raising healthy children.

Stigmas faced by children  :

The child is lazy / weak :

People believe that the child who is going through a mental illness is lazy and is making an excuse to not  work or complete his homework.

This is just a phase :

Most of the times when there is a change in the behavior patterns of a child, the parents ignore and say that it is just a phase. It can definitely be a phase but if that changed behavior continues then it is necessary to seek help of a professional. The parents need to keep a vigilant watch on their children and they need to keep a check if the child becomes very quiet , talks about harming himself , wants to be left alone, has a loss of appetite or talks about harming himself.

Child's irritable behavior is termed rudeness:

When the child gets irritable or snaps, the parents start saying that the child is rude. One has to keep a check and observe the behavior of their child. If the child gets irritated or snaps very often without any reason then he might be going through some issue. It should not be ignored.

The child is labelled as Incompetent :

If the child is performing well in academics and suddenly the grades fall,  instead of finding the reason of the fall in grades , the child is labelled as incompetent.

Stigmas faced by adults :

People who are suffering from mental illnesses are violent : 

This is not true. A person who is suffering from mental illness is not always violent or dangerous. The family, friends and co-workers isolate the person.

Discrimination :

A person who is suffering from a mental illness faces a lot of discrimination. The employers do not hire them. The health care workers offer them sub standard treatment.

One of the common stigmas that is faced both by adults and children is that both are bullied by peers, family or co workers. Sometimes they are physically harassed too.

This post is my second post of Blogchatter's cause a chatter. In my next post, I will talk about how to overcome these stigmas.

Monday, February 15, 2021

Am I a calm Mom ?


Life before a baby and life after a  baby are completely different. Like most of the moms, I too had an image in my mind of a being a perfect and a calm mom all the time when I was expecting my son. Each of us go through our own experiences of motherhood. Being a mom truly changes everything and it can be overwhelming too at times!

Am I a calm mom all the all time ? Honestly, I am not .I am really working hard on not losing my temper and get irritated easily. One thing which I have realized is that having a calm mom matters a lot to every child. Our children are our own reflections. If one snaps at their child every time he asks a question, after a point of time the child will start behaving in the same manner and snap at us when we ask him something.

Since I became a mother, I realized that I got irritated easily. A small trivial thing was enough to set the trigger off for me and I started to take that out on my son. I soon realized that this was not correct. It wasn't my son's fault at all and I wouldn't be able to raise a calm child if I am not calm myself.

It takes a lot of hard work to control one's emotions. I am sharing a few tips which I have learnt along the way and which have helped me to be a calm mom :

The child is not responsible for a mom's behavior:

The mother has to understand that she is responsible for her actions and behavior. Being overwhelmed with day to day duties is not child's fault. A mother's emotional state at the moment reflects her state of mind. It is very easy to get angry at your child and scold him when he spills milk on his clothes. But it takes a conscious effort to stay calm and tell the child that it is alright. Change his clothes and tell him calmly to be careful while drinking milk the next time.

Identify and acknowledge the triggers which set you off and make you angry.

Sit down. Take a deep breath. Write down the points which make you angry. Are your overwhelmed with the house work? Have you got enough sleep? Answer these questions and then try to work on them. 

Wake up 1-2 hours before your family wakes up. Take this opportunity to do what makes you happy. Read a book,have a cup of coffee, listen to music, workout or just  do nothing. This will definitely charge you for the day ahead.

Keep your phone away when you spend time with your child. Set aside certain time in a day when you do not use your phone at all. Let this be your special time with your child. You will realize that your child will feel very happy and it will definitely strengthen your bond with him. 

Accept the fact that you are not a supermom. Do not try to be perfect at everything, It is alright if the house is not clean one day or you didn't make ten things for dinner. Do not stress out because that stress will definitely be visible in your behavior.

Ask for help. If you are feeling overwhelmed, ask your husband or family to pitch in. Take this time to meet a friend for coffee. Go out, have a good time with friends. You will definitely come back rejuvenated and will be in a better mood.

Declutter . If mess makes you irritated, then de clutter and donate or throw the things which you no longer need. Seeing a clean and neat space definitely brightens up the mood.

Last but not the least, enjoy with your children. Make each moment special. The children grow up very fast. This is the time to hug them, laugh with them at their silly jokes and play with them. Enjoy this beautiful phase and always remember that you are the best mom for your child!

#motherhood #calmmom #mom

Thursday, January 28, 2021

Death On the Nile - Book Review

 Book Review

Book Name   : Death on the Nile

Author          : Agatha Christie

Publisher       : Harper Collins

Format          : Paper back

Pages            : 373

About the Book:

Death on the Nile by Agatha Christie was first published in Great Britain by Collins in 1937. This book features, Agatha Christie's most popular detective, Hercules Poirot. The action takes place in Egypt on the Nile River on a ship.

Hercules Poirot is Vacationing in Egypt. There he meets Linnet Doyle, who is on her honeymoon. She is very beautiful and filthy rich. Everyone is jealous of her. She marries her best friend's boyfriend, Simon. She comes to Poirot and tells him that she is scared of Jacqueline, her best friend, who resents her and is stalking her. She has come after her in the boat too. Linnet thinks that she might harm her. Does Linnet need to be careful? Is she the only one who should be on a look out ? Read the book to know more.

Review :

I am a huge Agatha Christie fan. I have read almost all her books. Poirot is my favorite. I love his integrity and demeanor. His stories never fail to entertain. It is a fast paced book . The sequence of events keeps one glued to the book. This book is based on a beautiful setting, all the character have excellent dialogues and the climax is outstanding. This book is almost 100 years old but the language is very lucid.Even today, Agatha Christie's books are loved world over. She is still the Queen of Crime and suspense!

About the author :

Agatha Christie was an English writer known for her sixty-six detective novels and fourteen short story collections, particularly those revolving around fictional detectives Hercules Poirot and Miss Marple. She also wrote the world's longest-running play, The Mousetrap, which was performed in the West End  from 1952 to 2020, as well as six novels under the pseudonym Mary Westmacott. In 1971, she was made a Dame (DBE) for her contributions to literature. Guinness World Records lists Christie as the best-selling fiction writer of all time, her novels having sold more than two billion copies.

#bookchatter #bookreview #tbrchallenge2021

Tuesday, January 26, 2021

Stigmas associated with Mental Health in India


Indians often take pride in their rich culture: in their religions, languages, dance, music, architecture and food. However, sadly, the Indian society still looks down upon people suffering from mental illnesses. A mental illness in the Indian society is not understood and is often stigmatized.

Stigmas associated with mental illness are the misguided views that individuals who are undergoing psychological and emotional distress are different from us. However, all humans experience distress in varying degrees in everyday life. In the olden days, people used to believe that mental health issues are caused by the possession of some demonic or spiritual possession which led to fear and discrimination.

It is not easy for people to come forward and talk if they are experiencing difficulties coping with stressful circumstances, if they feel sad or anxious, or if they feel lost. The stigmas surrounding mental health make it even harder to do so. These stigmas can worsen the person’s mental and physical health. They lead to discrimination, withdrawal and social isolation. This discrimination can either be direct or it can indirect. Direct discrimination can be passing off rude remarks about someone’s mental health and making them feel worse about themselves. Indirect discrimination can be avoiding the person who if suffering from some mental illness, assuming that the person may be violent or unstable. 

Sadly, people believe that people suffering from mental illnesses cannot be cured and therapy is a waste of time.

Harmful effects of mental health stigmas:

  •        Family, friends and peers at work do not understand what the individual is going through. People either try to avoid talking about the subject or completely ignore the person.
  •        People who are suffering from a mental illness are reluctant to go for therapy and seek help. They consider it as a shame or a disability and choose to keep mum about it. 
  •      People who are suffering from mental illnesses get harassed or bullied by others.
  •         There are less job opportunities for people who are suffering from mental health issues.
  •         Health insurance doesn’t adequately cover the treatment of mental illnesses.

Anyone can suffer from a mental illness. One does not realize it but young children can also suffer from mental health issues. It is very important to understand the signs of people who are suffering from a mental illness, provide social support, and adequate treatment for it.

This post is my first post of Blogchatter's Cause a Chatter . In my next post, I will explain how the stigmas are different for both adults and children and how to help overcome these stigmas.

#causeachatter #mentalhealth #stigma

Monday, January 25, 2021

2021 Book Reading Clallenge


I belong to a family where everyone loves to read. My journey of reading began with the Malory Towers series by Enid Blyton when I was 10 years old. After that began my love affair with books. I read the classic books like A Christmas Carol, Adventures of Tom Sawyer to mystery books like Nancy drew and Agatha Christie. But when I was in the tenth standard as studies became a priority. Although I loved to read but I got very busy with my studies and after that hardly read 3-4 books in a year. When I was in college I enjoyed reading books by Sidney Sheldon, Danielle Steel, Harlan Coben and Nora Roberts. But still I wasn’t able to give time to reading as much I would love to give. Once I got married and my son was born, reading took a complete back seat. That was the time when I couldn’t go out much and I wanted to something for myself. When my son was about 4 months old, I started reading again. I used to look forward to reading when he slept. I took a membership in our local library. Chennai has excellent libraries. They have a huge variety of books, from the latest books to classics.

From the last four years, I have revived my hobby again. The most common question which my friends ask me is when do I get time to read. I tell everyone that if you love something, you will definitely take out 30 minutes for it. Either I wake up early before everyone wakes up in my family. I enjoy my alone time with my book and a cup of coffee or before going to bed, I read a few pages of a book.

Thanks to Blogchatter, I have participated in Blogchatter Reading challenge 2021, #tbrchallenge. I resolve to read 50 books this year. If you love to read, you can participate too. Log in to their website and just register for the challenge here

#bookchatter #books #booklover #bookreadingchallenege

Thursday, October 8, 2020

Along came a Spyder - Book Review

 Book Review

Book Name : Along came a Spyder

Author        : Apeksha Rao

Format        : Paperback

Publisher   : Tree Shade Books

Pages         : 255

Blurb :

At 17, Samira Joshi has only one dream in life. She wants to be a spy. Spying runs in the Joshi genes. Her great grandmother was famous for sticking her nose in everyone's business. Her grandmother had a flourishing side-business of tracking down errant husbands and missing servants. Her parents are elite intelligence agents for RAW. Yet, they want their only daughter to become a doctor. When she sees a college friend being trapped by a pimp, Samira does some spying of her own, and discovers the existence of a secret sisterhood of teen spies - the Spyders. And, she wants in !

The question is, do they want her ?

Why did I read this book?

I read the Itsy Bitsy Spyder, which is the sequel to this book and I loved that book. I had to read this book and I must say that I loved this book even more. 

My Review :

I am a big fan of  mystery, drama and thriller books. This book is unputdownable. It is fast paced and I love Apeksha's way with words. Each scene has been described in detail and all characters have been portrayed very well. I already fell in love with Samira from the Itsy Bitsy Spyder. I could relate to Samira's relationship with her mom because most of the teenage girls have a similar kind of relationship with their mothers. Apeksha has also shown how strong the Indian family ties are! Although Samira wants to become a Spy but she only wants to become one with her parents approval. The strong relationship with the grandmother is also beautifully depicted in the book. 

The language of the book is simple and crisp. The cover is beautiful, modern and very chic!. 

I am sure young adults as well as adults will enjoy reading the book.

About the author :

Apeksha Rao is a multi-genre author from Bangalore.

Apeksha has written many short stories based on the same series

Apeksha’s current works in progress: A middle-grade book, a chick-lit featuring a detective, and a horror novel (the writing of which is giving her sleepless nights).

Rating : 4/5

Wednesday, September 23, 2020

Trichup Kertain Hair Mask and Shampoo - Product Review

I read somewhere , " Invest in your hair, it is the crown, that you can never take off ". I am very particular about choosing products for my hair. I noticed from the past few months, my hair became very lifeless , brittle and started falling.There’s nothing more demotivating than finding out that you’re losing your hair frequently.I was looking for something which was not harsh on my hair and at the same time repaired my hair. I came across Trichup Hair brand.

Trichup is a flagship brand of Vasu Healthcare. Their range of products includes Oil, Shampoos, Serums, Hair packs, Henna and Hair Creams. It is an Indian brand and has been in the market since 1990. Their products are made with natural herbs and is free of harmful chemicals.It is dermatologically tested and is prescribed by doctors.  The most common problems related to Hair are hair loss, dandruff,dry hair, dull hair, frizzy and brittle hair. Most of the women suffer from minimum one of the above issues. The good news is that Trichup has a solution for all the above problems.

I recently used their Keratin Hair mask and Keratin damage repair shampoo.

Keratin Hair Mask :

The hair-care mask is used in the convenience and comfort for good health for hair.The keratin forms a protective shield around the hair shaft.Keratin protein binds moisture to the hair and improves shine, volume, and manageability.Trichup Keratin Hot Oil Treatment Hair Mask gives increased flexibility and tensile strength.

Its benefits are: 

  • Improves the hair appearance overall.
  • Trichup Keratin Hot Oil Treatment Hair Mask helps to retain the hair moisture.
  • It reduces the frizziness of hair
  • It is suitable to all hair types.

My review :

The hair mask is very easy to apply. I have been using is for the last three months and I am very happy with the results. Spread over the wet hair from root to tip after shampooing.Leave for 10 to 15 minutes, preferably with hair wrapped in the hot towel.Rinse off thoroughly. My hairs is not dull anymore. the friziness has reduced and it looks really nice. 

Trichup Keratin Shampoo :

Keratin is a kind of protein in hair, which provides strength, flexibility and softness. Trichup Keratin Shampoo is fortified with Keratin protein, which forms a layer over the hair replacing the lost Keratin and rebuilds strength, returns elasticity and reduces breakage. It also contains suitable conditioners to leave hair healthy, shiny and frizz-free.

The main features of this shampoo are :

  • It is free from harmful chemicals.
  • It does not have any side effects. 
  • It has been tested on animals.

My Review :

The shampoo is not harsh on the hair at all. It has a very pleasant fragrance. My hair has become more shilny, they have more volume and have become manageable now. The best thing is that my split ends have reduced and they are not frizzy anymore.

If you are facing hair fall and dullness of hair, I highly recommend these Trichup Keratin Hair mask and Trichup Keratin shampoo. 

You can buy the products from the below links :

Vasu Store : 

Amazon :

Stigmas faced by Children and Adults suffering from Mental Health Issues

Mental Health disorders are on the rise in both children and adults. It is very important to recognize the symptoms and provide necessary tr...